In 2009, my job as a luxury property manager in Barcelona was overthrown and I set up my own sex blog. I was doing fetish modeling on weekends and directing my own shoots. I had amassed a lot of imagery, and wanted to share it all with the world to make my hobby an online business.

This was not a decision that I made lightly. However, it was an awful time to be involved in real estate. It was a horrible experience to have to purchase rat poison rather than food because of a rat infestation. When the commissions for my last two sales were paid, I quit my job and got rid of the rats. venusohara.org was created.

Only a few of my closest friends and family knew. Many thought that I was trying to achieve an impossible dream of making a living through my art. But when it began working, they were happy for me. In the beginning, my blog was slowly growing – I got 300 visits on a good day – and I began to get used to online attention. When I began being interviewed by Spanish media, it really took off. Then I was asked to be a sex columnist at Spanish Q.

In 2013, I was Spain’s most popular sex blogger. Adult novelty companies began sending me sex toys to use in my column. So I made a business of my growing pleasure stash and put it to good use. My first review was of a jelly vibrator. I don’t think I would review it now because jelly is too porous for proper cleaning.

Now, I produce video reviews on my Sex Toy Laboratory YouTube and also work in development. I even invented my own clitoral stimulator. Although it is a perk, having orgasms and lying on my unmade beds is only one part of the job. It’s mostly writing reviews and then editing videos. Although I work nearly every day as a solo artist, I love what I do.

I would like to increase orgasmic awareness in women. Many women don’t realize that, despite advances in female sexual liberation and awareness, having a clitoris can increase our orgasmic potential. Not only does it have obvious benefits for your sexual health, but pleasure can also improve your relationships and self-confidence. Orgasm is a great way to relax muscles and improve your mood.

You can’t know how much your online influence is. My work has an impact only when I meet my female readers at book signings. After reading my reviews, I have met many women who were inspired to purchase their first sex toys and became adult toy tester. I am encouraged by the glow on their faces after telling me about their first orgasm.

Although I have only purchased one sex-toy, a battery-operated rabbit vibrator as my first, I have hundreds of pleasure toys that have been sent my way. Only luxury products made of safe materials are tested by me. They are all kept in one big cupboard. I organize them by category. So, for example, there is the benwah balls drawer and the rabbit drawer. You can also buy app-controlled toys that can easily be controlled remotely by a friend. A laser device that facilitates female arousal was the most expensive toy I reviewed. It cost EUR1,700, and I cannot describe it except that it was similar to female Viagra. The “repeat drawer”, which is right next to my bed, contains the best toys. I would love to have all of them.

It is not easy to explain what I do for my living. It can be intimidating for some men, while others find it fascinating. It is a great way to test my ability to handle myself. It can be irritating if people don’t take me seriously, or laugh at my jokes. It encourages people tell me things that they wouldn’t admit to their friends or partners. This is when I know that my job fulfills a real need.

Many women ask me how they can have an orgasm. It’s not about the toy. It’s about letting go of your fantasies and connecting them to your body. There is nothing quite like it when you do.